Unfortunately, victim blaming, bullying and sexual violence often go concurrently. There are many misconceptions in our society that fortifies that a survivor is somehow partly (or even fully) to blame for being bullied, sexually assaulted or abused.
One reason people blame a victim is to distance themselves from an unpleasant occurrence and thereby confirm their own invulnerability to the risk. By labelling or accusing the victim, others can see the victim as different from themselves. People reassure themselves by thinking, “Because I am not like her, because I do not do that, this would never happen to me.” We need to help people understand that this is not a helpful reaction.
Why is it menacing?
Victim-blaming attitudes marginalize the victim/survivor and make it tougher to come forward and report the abuse. If the survivor knows that you or the society blames her for the abuse, s/he will not feel safe, confident or comfortable coming forward and talk about it.
The higher risk is that more often, tormented victims guilt put by others lure them to suicide and, yes, they die because of us, our torture above their rupture.
It is NOT the victim’s fault or responsibility to fix the situation, it is the abuser’s DEADLY CHOICE.