Habits and Addictions, Sexual Experiences and Moral Implications – From The Book “Dear Youth Counsellor,” By Dr. Anthony Grugni, M.D.

You might have noticed that I have been on a rage through my books related to teens and youths. I, especially, skimmed through each chapter to find what is suitable to bring to you. This chapter is extremely important to have knowledge about. So you are here now, please read on.

In today’s world, young people experience lots of stress and pressures. There is so much of competition in every sphere of life, from school to college to get a job and even a girl/boy friend. Many see their future as dark and difficult. Some may end up depressed, disappointed and disturbed to the extent of finding their lives meaningless and hopeless. A basic sense of insecurity, loneliness and boredom may add to a feeling of frustration, which leads some youth to a desire to “compensate” through various forms of addiction (drugs, alcohol, smoking, sex, T.V, internet, etc.)

Peer pressure and a disturbed family atmosphere, by which children feel unwanted and unloved, may contribute to the desire to “escape” in an artificial world of dreams and pleasure, where everything is easy and possible.

Transactional Analysis is a branch of modern psychology that says (no matter at what age we are) we always operate on any of the following three levels: Child, Parent or Adult. Hence, there are basically three levels of reasoning that motivate people to act or react to various situations in life.

The choices we make when motivated by the “child” in us have the following characteristics:

  • They are about excitement and fun
  • They give immediate satisfaction and gratification
  • They come easy and naturally
  • They are frequently motivated by boredom, stubbornness, anger, laziness, etc.
  • They bring about only temporary relief, leading to the desire for more and more gratification, which can lead to addiction

The choices we make when motivated by the “parent” within us are motivated by pressure from those in authority:

  • They express a desire for “belonging”
  • A desire to please others
  • A desire to appear good
  • A desire to develop a reputation
  • A desire for popularity
  • The fear of being punished or rejected by the “parent”

Finally, we can make choices that are motivated by an “adult” consciousness. These are choices that are mature:

  • Rational thinking
  • Respect for others and their rights
  • A sense of responsibility and commitment
  • An awareness of risks and consequences
  • Lind term goals
  • Development of true love relationships
  • Development of convictions based on sound moral and religious principles

To be Continued…




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